Dating A Feminist: A Guide On Dating Strong Women

Modern feminism has become more prevalent, and nowadays, traditional gender roles have started vanishing, as gender equality is on the horizon, but feminism isn’t only about equal rights, as it encompasses more aspects. And of course, not every person is willing to date feminists, as some of them might think that feminists hate men. But is it true?

Well, it’s not right at all, and like all women, feminists can be interesting to date, but of course, it would be quite a different experience for you. Thus, there’s no need to believe unusual myths about feminists. You just need to know more about them and learn some tips to impress your future feminist lady, be it a black or white woman, as there’s no racial or ethnic disposition specific to being a feminist.

Who’s a feminist?

There’s a lot you can discover about feminism and its belief in social, economic, and political equality of sexes, in addition to creating a better world where women can express themselves without oppression and discrimination. Interestingly, the waves of feminism can be traced to the ancient world, but it became more prevalent in the 20th and 21st centuries.

A typical feminist in the modern era tries to achieve success in her career by fighting sexism, racism, and classism. Social media is a key instrument in highlighting and addressing concerns like sexual harassment, rape culture, body shaming, and the like. Simply put, feminists are vocal about their concerns, and in most cases, they’re fearless.

Tips on dating a feminist

As I highlighted, a feminist is different from other women, and she’s someone you need to approach in a different manner. Before you start dating her, you should forget about the stereotypes about feminist ladies, as not everything you hear about them might not be real. If you’re ready to leave the world of patriarchy and get attached to a woman who’s strong and independent.

Show that you respect women

A feminist won’t only be impressed with your respect, but she will also want to see that you respect other women who are in your life, such as your mother, sisters, etc. Your feminist partner needs to be sure that you’re the person who can show respect. It’s believed that a man respecting other women will respect his partner, be it someone for a long-term relationship or just a sex partner.

Don’t forget about gender roles in a relationship

If you’re interested in ladies who are docile and ready to do all the house chores at home, then feminists shouldn’t be on the list of people you’d like to date. But if you’re determined to conquer the heart of a feminist lady, then you should be ready to contribute to the house chores. Thus, you better forget about conventional role division.

Avoid suppressing emotions

Don’t forget that a feminist is a person who’s ready for commitment and emotions. And at the same time, she’s ready to listen to you, and she’d like to be listened to. You shouldn’t suppress your feelings and hush up the problems. You can always discuss your emotions with your partner. Please note that unresolved problems might manifest later in a more problematic way. Being able to speak out is a sign of maturity, honesty, and readiness for a relationship.

Know that feminists love themselves

What’s the main problem of dating a feminist? Well, doing something for her might not be enough, so you should do your best to impress your feminist lady. Simply put, don’t get surprised if your feminist lady is quite demanding, not to mention she’ll be quite a picky person. This is one of the most important aspects to consider before you decide to date a feminist.

Be careful with paying the bill

Will you lady be okay if you pay for the bill? Well, this is where things can get tricky. It’s something you should discuss with your lady, as feminists might not want you to pay the bill. If you’re planning to go on the first date, it’s normal that you pay for the bill unless your lady insists on sharing the bill. If she wants to share the bill, there’s nothing you can do.

Respect her feminism

One of the best things you can do is learn more about feminism and its values. The more you are aware of feminism, the easier it’ll be for you to date her. Understanding the core things about feminism will help you understand the passion of your lady. As was already mentioned, feminists don’t hate men, but they’re not tolerant of men who don’t share their values.

Try to avoid arguing with feminists

Feminists learn to protect their ideas and values, and this is why they can argue with emotions and reasoning at the same time, and they’ll do their best to prove that they’re right. Thus, you better avoid arguing with your woman, but it’s inevitable; you better not try to calm her down. You better avoid asking your feminist lady to calm down.

Learn to be an attentive person

Like any woman, feminist ladies are fond of attention, and they value it when they’re listened to. So, if you’re not only a good listener but also an attentive person, then you have a higher chance of creating a solid bond with your partner for sure. Being an attentive guy for your lady is one of the most important things for your relationship.

Final thoughts

It would be wrong to say that it’s not a good idea to create relationships with feminist women, but you should be determined and strong-willed to gain their sympathy. Accept the fact that they’re different and unique, and be ready for challenges.

Eloise Bouton

Eloise Bouton is a French independent journalist, feminist, sex life coach, author, a specialist in LGBTQI+ issues, founder of the website Madame Rap, co-founder of the House of Consent project, and former activist of the Femen movement.